Sunny Road

a simple list i made years ago when i was a single gal of the things i coveted in the man of my dreams. 

~considerate

~easy going

~would bring me flowers on occasion

~likes to dance

 Of course I wanted to find someone with similar values, who was smart, funny, all the necessary stuff, but this list comprised the bonus items and ones that were true to just me not just what everyone is looking for.  I made the list because I always find when you write things down they become more real.  The words find a way of becoming more cemented in my mind and even if I forget that I made the list, it lays there in one of the filing cabinets lined up within my brain. 

Something made be think of this list the other day and I thought hmmm..does my new husband live up to this list.  I went down each item in my head.

Considerate – this was a broad term in my head that encompassed valuing my time and others, respecting my feelings, being open to the world.  Jay by far has exceeded any expectation I had for this.

Easy going = jay

Brings me flowers on occasion – yep! i’m so lucky..

Likes to dance – oh no!  jay hates to dance……or does he.  with this list and many things in life it requires perspective and being open to understanding that when you wish things for yourself you may not even realize the true meaning until it comes to you. (and no i am not into ”the secret”)  i wished that the man of my dreams like to dance.  when i wrote that many moons ago, what i meant was that i was hoping for someone to boogie with on the dance floor and someone who would take me in his arms and pull me close during slow songs.  jay is not that guy.  he would prefer to chat with a bunch of people and watch others hit the dance floor.  he does however, love to dance around the house doing all these crazy moves that my little nephew jack inspired him with and especially goes crazy during the office theme song.  he’s got some great moves!! this is something that i adore about jay and it is extra special because he really only does it in front of me in the comfort of our home. 

so my silly little list wasn’t so silly after all and what i really wanted to happen did.  sometimes you just have to look at things from a different angle or perspective to understand it fully.  so make little lists but don’t get caught up in the details of them.  stand on a table.  lie on the ground for a better view of the world.  just don’t be afraid to do the work to make whatever it is you are looking for a reality!